tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1098361547792425611.post7097074680759038002..comments2023-11-14T20:22:36.929-08:00Comments on Knowledge Is Necessity: The Bipolar Relationship RiddleJohn McManamyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11857174305041382349noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1098361547792425611.post-31592853478118896132009-02-11T11:13:00.000-08:002009-02-11T11:13:00.000-08:00Hey, Tom. Very interesting points. But when a woma...Hey, Tom. Very interesting points. But when a woman writes to me about being physically and emotionally abused by her loved one I'm not going to tell her about the relationship Jesus chose with the Romans. <BR/><BR/>You never met the women I was with, so it's not your place to judge my actions, nor do I have to defend myself. <BR/><BR/>They were the right women. The relationships were wrong - John McManamyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11857174305041382349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1098361547792425611.post-31021275350247104192009-02-11T10:19:00.000-08:002009-02-11T10:19:00.000-08:00At a much higher level there are no wrong relation...At a much higher level there are no wrong relationships or choices of the wrong people. One could argue that Jesus had a bad relationship with the Romans, but he chose it. Are you saying that he made a bad choice? Or did he act in a way that made it one of the greatest relationships of all time?<BR/><BR/>I would rather develop right behavior than be wrong about picking the right person. As long Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1098361547792425611.post-89587019276735016732009-02-10T23:13:00.000-08:002009-02-10T23:13:00.000-08:00Hey, Tom. I appreciate where you're coming from. I...Hey, Tom. I appreciate where you're coming from. I'm all for focusing on my behavior as a means to improve relationships. I know I'm a much better person to get along with than I used to be. But I could no longer be with the wrong woman than put up with the wrong boss or the wrong group of friends. We make choices. Sometimes they're the wrong ones. Then my growth involves owning up to my bad John McManamyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11857174305041382349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1098361547792425611.post-39756560959737471602009-02-10T22:41:00.000-08:002009-02-10T22:41:00.000-08:00The most important factor in having better relatio...The most important factor in having better relationships is not a trait of the other person at all, it is about what personal growth you are willing to do. All other factors are laying the responsibility on the other person. A person who turns his own actions to those of a saint can have a fabulous relationship with anyone. <BR/><BR/>Those who think success in a relationship has anything to do Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1098361547792425611.post-39707231329257184952009-02-10T19:19:00.000-08:002009-02-10T19:19:00.000-08:00Hey, Cristina. You're wrong. You ARE a guru. These...Hey, Cristina. You're wrong. You ARE a guru. These are absolute words of wisdom, here. I'd love to hear more. In fact, it would be great if you were to expand this into a guest blog or two. Please let me know if you're interested. I'm serious about this.John McManamyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11857174305041382349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1098361547792425611.post-79498946904593378212009-02-10T17:20:00.000-08:002009-02-10T17:20:00.000-08:00Hi John. :) Oh, I'm no guru on relationships. L...Hi John. :) Oh, I'm no guru on relationships. LOL! But that's the aspect of my life that I pay the most attention to and value the most - healthy relationships. <BR/><BR/>I'm not saying you necessarily need someone who is well. Just because a person isn't bipolar doesn't necessarily compute that they're well. And visa versa. Fact is, though, that most people are unwell in some aspect of Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1098361547792425611.post-80891875702634557042009-02-09T21:39:00.000-08:002009-02-09T21:39:00.000-08:00Hey, Christina. Yes! Someone who is WELL. Please -...Hey, Christina. Yes! Someone who is WELL. Please - be my guru. Educate me, enlighten me. <BR/><BR/>Seriously, as a bipolar writer and advocate, it's hard to publicly admit that I may have to give up on the idea of dating or having a relationship with someone who has bipolar. But I have three strikes on me.<BR/><BR/>If it were JUST bipolar, I think I might have a chance. But no one - me included -John McManamyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11857174305041382349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1098361547792425611.post-51860652048540688422009-02-09T21:29:00.000-08:002009-02-09T21:29:00.000-08:00Hey, Sandra. I feel like one of these people who k...Hey, Sandra. I feel like one of these people who keeps driving his car into the same brick wall every morning. When am I going to learn? Over at BipolarConnect, relationships are the questions people ask about the most. Their stories are heart-breaking and dismal.<BR/><BR/>I don't have answers. Thus, I, too, will be reading Therese's posts with great interest.<BR/><BR/>Glad to have you here. John McManamyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11857174305041382349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1098361547792425611.post-3054205956536172582009-02-09T18:15:00.000-08:002009-02-09T18:15:00.000-08:00I hope your meeting went well.Romantic relationshi...I hope your meeting went well.<BR/><BR/>Romantic relationships with people who have a bipolar disorder continues to be the most commented-on and most-lamented subject I've ever written about at World of Psychology. I'll be watching Therese's series with interest too, since I ran out of ideas for positive posts about those horrific relationship problems and the statistics behind them. YOU know Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1098361547792425611.post-39532417419017290182009-02-09T15:52:00.000-08:002009-02-09T15:52:00.000-08:00Mmmmm... Have you ever thought of dating a non-bi...Mmmmm... Have you ever thought of dating a non-bipolar chick? LOL! I've never dated anyone with bipolar (to my knowledge). I believe in some extent to the saying that opposites attract. My best success has come with men who are have a steadiness and predictability about them - something I don't have since I'm bipolar.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com